Welcome to the fourth edition of Thriving Families with Qera! In this issue, we’re diving deep into building strong, connected families—a cornerstone of thriving homes. Using knowledge of the DISC model and a simple framework, let’s explore how understanding personality types can enhance family relationships and foster a culture of love, respect, and connection.
The BUILD Framework for Stronger Family Bonds
In the intricate dance of family life, a strong foundation is essential. The BUILD framework offers a roadmap:
B – Boundaries
U – Understand
I – Implement Effective Communication
L – Live in the Moment
D – Develop a Safe Environment
B – Boundaries
Boundaries are crucial in every family dynamic. They provide structure, security, and respect, ensuring everyone knows their place within the family circle and that outsiders respect your family’s values.
DISC Insight:
– D Personality Types: Dominant family members often lead the way but may struggle with boundaries, pushing their agendas too hard. Clear, firm boundaries help them channel their drive respectfully.
– I Personality Types: Influential personalities may need reminders to honor others’ personal space while maintaining their social energy.
– S Personality Types: Steady members thrive on well-defined, stable boundaries that promote harmony.
– C Personality Types: Conscientious members appreciate detailed guidelines, ensuring clarity and mutual respect.
Action Tip: Communicate boundaries clearly and reinforce them with love and consistency. Discuss family rules and ensure everyone understands and respects them, especially to outsiders.
U – Understand
Understanding is the heart of a thriving family. Each family member navigates unique challenges shaped by personality, life stages, and emotions. When we understand the people we live with, life becomes easier. One of the simple ways to know and understand people is by taking the DISC personality quiz which reveals to you your style and personality.
DISC Insight:
– D Personality Types: They value direct communication and may struggle with emotional nuances. Show patience and clarity when addressing them.
– I Personality Types: They need acknowledgment and encouragement. Celebrate their creativity and energy to deepen understanding.
– S Personality Types: Provide them with reassurance and patience, especially during challenging times.
– C Personality Types: These members appreciate thoughtful, well-reasoned discussions that align with their need for accuracy.
Action Tip: Practice empathetic listening. When your child or partner speaks, don’t just hear—truly strive to understand their emotions, motivations, and needs.
I – Implement Effective Communication
Communication is the glue that binds families together. It’s not just about speaking; it’s about ensuring every family member feels heard and valued.
DISC Insight:
– D Personality Types: Be direct but kind, acknowledging their achievements to build trust.
– I Personality Types: Engage with enthusiasm, recognizing their need for connection and validation.
– S Personality Types: Use calm, steady tones to maintain peace and encourage them to share openly.
– C Personality Types: Provide detailed, clear communication to help them feel secure and informed.
Action Tip: Create family check-ins or discussion times where everyone can openly express thoughts, ideas, or concerns. Remember to listen as much as you speak.
L – Live in the Moment
Life moves fast, but the most memorable family moments happen when we slow down and live fully in the present.
DISC Insight:
– D Personality Types: Encourage them to pause and enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
– I Personality Types: Create spontaneous moments of joy to match their playful spirit.
– S Personality Types: Foster cozy, routine-driven experiences that bring comfort and delight.
– C Personality Types: Plan activities that align with their need for organization and purpose.
Action Tip: Dedicate time for family fun, game nights, outdoor adventures, or simply sharing meals. These moments strengthen bonds and create lasting memories.
D – Develop a Safe Environment
Every family member should feel emotionally safe. Free to be themselves without fear of judgment. A “No Judgment Zone” fosters trust and nurtures authentic connections.
DISC Insight:
– D Personality Types: Teach them to embrace vulnerability and accept others’ perspectives without criticism.
– I Personality Types: Help them feel secure by offering consistent encouragement and celebrating their individuality.
– S Personality Types: Reinforce their sense of belonging with steady reassurance and affirmation.
– C Personality Types: Respect their need for order and provide a space where their ideas are valued.
Action Tip: Encourage open conversations and affirm that everyone’s feelings and opinions matter. Let home be a sanctuary where everyone feels valued and loved.
Building Together
As we BUILD these pillars: Boundaries, Understanding, Communication, Living in the Moment, and a Safe Environment, we lay the foundation for a thriving family dynamic. By integrating DISC principles into this framework, we create a personalized approach to fostering deeper connections and mutual respect within our families.
What steps will you take this week to BUILD a stronger family? Start small, maybe a family meeting to set boundaries or a spontaneous fun activity. Let’s create homes that thrive on understanding, joy, and love.
Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. I’m here to support you every step of the way. Share your thoughts, successes, or challenges in the comments, or reach out to me directly.
With love and encouragement,
Abayomi Emmanuel Fakeye
Your Parenting Coach at Qera Global
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